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October: The Month For Ghosting

When I told my mom the other day that I was being ghosted, she assumed I meant something was haunting me and that I was going insane. Nope, mom, just another human being exiting my life silently without a reason.

Goblins, vampires, werewolves, and ghosts are all super cool during the month of October, that is until “ghost” started to be used as a verb that is now ruining my life. Okay, I’m being dramatic and hypocritical because I am the queen of ghosting. Ask anyone who has talked to me in the last two years. “I don’t know she just stopped texting me, but she’s super busy.” Busy, AKA I lost interest when you thought “new” was “knew”.

For those who do not know, Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as, “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.”

Okay, but seriously why is ghosting a thing? I wish I didn’t do it, but the idea of telling someone they aren’t my type, or that I didn’t enjoy that awkward movie date we had sounds excruciating in comparison to just not replying to them, but when it happens to me… It’s a whole different story.

I begin to panic, asking all of my friends what I did wrong, I blame it on the universe and my lack of puns on the date. “What could I have done differently?” “Was it my joke about Donald Trump?” Or maybe it’s because as I have previously stated, dating in this world is completely useless.

There are actually how to’s circulating the internet on ghosting (I am as shocked as you are), just in case we all forgot how to not reply to a text or Snapchat. But ghosting gets messy because as I’ve learned the hard way if you ghost too soon, you can have regrets, but there is no turning back.

Am I going to stop ghosting? Probably not. Do I want it stop happening to me? Yes. But ghosting is here to stay and that’s something we all have to live with, but ghost at your own risk.

Also, enjoy the block party this weekend! Be safe and meet new people!

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